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They See It In You

Before You Do

My friend Art and I still reminisce about a customer meeting we attended together years ago. It was my freshman year in the corporate world and my first business trip. My job in the meeting was to utter three whole sentences about how the numbers were derived. He insists he saw something special in me at that meeting — who knows what it was, but he saw it. Art is definitely one of the people who helped me build confidence in those early years and remains a loyal supporter to this day.

Throughout a career and no matter the titles acquired, everyone’s confidence will hit some peaks and valleys. While it’s ultimately something to possess internally, external input provides valuable information. Pay attention to what your supporters are saying. They see it in you, even before you’ve internalized it. That they see you is a gift. Read more

Something You’re Not

Wrong Answer

I’m not sure how this was possible but upon graduating from college, I embarked on a job hunt without ever having practiced a mock interview with the university’s career department. While my business major pals were scripted and ready, this liberal arts gal was a bit less prepared. When the interviewer posed a detailed situational question that sought to determine how I would handle a problem employee, these are the words that came out of my mouth: I’d fire him! Perhaps some of you are thinking that my response was right on but that wasn’t judged to be case. Read more

You’re Making an Impact

Tell Me About Yourself

So what do you do for work? Tell me about yourself. You will encounter some version of this familiar icebreaker on job interviews, airplanes, networking events, and cocktail parties. A variety of factors will affect your answer including how you feel that day and whether you’re in the mood for a real conversation. Read more

Does It Match?

The Truth of Who You Are

Toward the end of Moonstruck, one of my all-time favorite movies, there is an exchange between Rose Castorini and the college professor (i.e., Olympia Dukakis and John Mahoney). When Rose dismisses the professor’s advances, he tries to save face by concluding that she is unable to invite him up to her place because “people are home.” Rose won’t allow him this rationalization, and her response clarifies: “No, I think the house is empty. I can’t invite you in because I’m married — because I know who I am.” Read more

There’s No Comparison

This Is Your Life

I was 30 years old and sitting in a counselor’s office contemplating the next chapter of my life, having recently decided to get divorced. Elaine (the counselor) commented that she had observed it often took about six years post-divorce to be ready for a serious relationship again. While on one level I was at peace and looking forward to a fresh start, on another level I had an overriding feeling that could be summed up in three words: I’m so behind. Read more

Do You Know the Value of Your Own Stock?

Bird in the Hand

After a 22-year career with the company, Rose became part of a downsizing. Though her severance package was fairly generous, she was very anxious about finding a job, as she was a single mother with the pressures of a high mortgage in California. After two months, Rose was offered a position with the same company in a different department. Though she was overqualified and the salary was less than what she had been earning previously, she accepted the offer. Her family’s and friends’ nervousness about her situation reverberated through the phone lines with a loud and clear message: YOU BETTER TAKE IT. Rose took their advice but inside her spirits sunk with the unmistakable feeling of taking “multiple steps backwards”. Read more

What You and Pavarotti Have In Common

King of the High C’s

Can you imagine being so affected by a single musical performance that you would return 17 curtain calls in appreciation? That was what the audience gave Luciano Pavarotti after he masterfully delivered nine high C’s in a row during a performance of Donizetti’s “La Fille du Regiment” at New York’s Metropolitan Opera in 1972. The high C, an octave above middle C on the piano, is one of the highest notes in the tenor range. Approaching it means stepping out to the edge, even for a master. Pavarotti described it this way:

“When singing high notes, I feel like a show jumper before a 2-meters-plus bar. Stretched to my limits. Excited and happy, but with a strong undercurrent of fear. The moment I actually hit the note, I almost lose consciousness. A physical, animal sensation seizes me. Then, after it has been successfully negotiated, I regain control.” (1) Read more

Don’t Rest On Your Laurels — Ride Them!

Horn Tooting As A Necessity

Fresh out of college and starting my corporate career, I was advised to keep an attagirl file – a place to collect letters of praise for a job well done that I might receive from coworkers or customers.  Since this was before e-mail, these letters had a formality to them and were called Letters of Commendation.  Over the years, the practice became more casual as the folders filled with more e-mails than letters. Read more

When To Be A Gentle Giant

It Starts Young

This past winter I was comforting a friend after her mother’s funeral.  Emotionally spent from the service and reception that followed, we sat at home that evening with her family.  Her sixteen-year-old daughter had been so poised and mature, as she received condolences for the loss of her grandmother.  It was a school night after a very long day and she was exhausted.  She cried as she explained the dilemma to her mother.  She wanted to stay home from school the next day to catch up on the work she had missed, but she had to go to class because her two cousins had decided that they were going.  How would it look to the teachers if her cousins showed up and she was home? Read more