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Open To What Is Next

Dad’s Words to Me

In the last year of my father’s life, it was necessary for him to have minor surgeries every few months. He rolled with these and recovered each time, able to enjoy the year with my mother in their new community where she was beginning to receive assisted living support. At this point, she was in the earlier stages of Alzheimer’s and they were able to participate in various social activities ranging from chair yoga to a singing group to dinners with new friends. Read more

Be-Do-Have at Work

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When you first hear the coaching concept called Be-Do-Have, you might think it’s about as useful as the advice to “be the ball”, generally reserved for parodying us coaches and motivator types. So rather than just talk theory, today I bring you an actual example of someone who applied the Be-Do-Have principle with great success at work. Read more

Learn As You Go

But You Don’t Know Anything About It

We were seated next to each other at a dinner party for mutual friends who were about to move cross-country. Val, an executive for a large non-profit organization, asked me a question I’m often asked: How did you make the change? She was familiar with coaching since she and several of her colleagues had worked with an executive coach over the course of their careers. Val wanted to know more about the kind of coaching I do and how I transitioned to the field from my prior work. She stated that for a while now, she has been entertaining the idea of becoming a coach and then she added what stops her: But I don’t know anything about it. Read more

Are You Jumping to Conclusions?

Don’t Just Assume

“I’m asking more questions vs. jumping to conclusions.” That’s what Madeline¹ counted as a success in the week that transpired since our last conversation. Rather than assume she knows what someone else is thinking, Madeline, an orthodontist, says she is making a point to ask more questions so that she can respond better to both her patients and staff. Having the courage to ask is one of the attributes of a leader that, previously, we had identified to strengthen. Read more

It Doesn’t Hurt To Ask

Even In This Economy

In this economy. Listen carefully to what someone says after those three words and you’ll learn something about that person’s belief system. Even optimists can’t help but be affected by the fearful refrain being drilled into us from every quarter. Current economic factors are impacting our livelihoods, our health and overall outlook. It’s challenging us and it’s stressful. Even so, it’s important to recognize the danger of allowing the “in this economy” mindset to skew our decisions and actions. You can ask the question, “What can I do in this economy?” in one of two ways: one implies “why bother?” and the other invites a creative solution. Read more

Take Courage!

Fear is a Given

“It’s not my first rodeo,” remarked Jeanie, a client who is preparing to move cross country and pursue a new career path. She is familiar with the voices of fear from the peanut gallery. Some are from friends who ask, “Are you sure about this?” while other doubtful refrains originate in her own mind. Fortunately, Jeanie has made big moves before and is prepared for this stage of second-guessing her decision. She knows how to keep the fears in perspective by talking back to them: I know this is right for me. Read more

The Courageous You

When Was Your Courage Tested?

Recently I had the opportunity to hear Maya Angelou speak to an audience at ASU. Now 83 years old, Dr. Angelou was as entertaining and inspirational as I had anticipated. She told stories, recited poetry, sang, and delivered her wisdom with humor. One of the themes she underscored was that courage is the most important virtue “because without courage, you wouldn’t be able to practice all the other virtues”. Read more

A Big Move

Moving Day

Ginny's parents

My parents about to attend a luncheon for new residents, two days before moving.

After weeks of preparation, furniture shopping, logistics management, and multiple visits to Target and Bed, Bath & Beyond, I’m happy to report that my parents’ move to their new home went very smoothly yesterday. I’m so grateful to have found a beautiful Independent/Assisted Living Community that suits them perfectly. I must give a shout-out to Becky Feola, the referral agent and assisted living counselor who was instrumental in helping us evaluate communities. Thank you, Becky, for sharing your knowledge and perspective in such a caring way. Read more

Signs of Hope

Picking up the Pieces

Our work together was abruptly interrupted by the earthquake that struck her country on January 12. Knowing someone who lives in Haiti made the news headlines all the more real. I was relieved and grateful the day I received her email letting me know she was okay. After taking a few months to regroup, Vanessa was ready to resume coaching. On our first call, she explained that her neighborhood in Port-au-Prince had been spared, her home was intact, and the office where she works was still operational. Read more

Daring to Doubt

Turning the Table on Your Doubts

Knowing I have a voracious appetite for things inspirational, a friend of mine gave me a calendar that has a different quotation each month.  One of them, in particular, struck me: Read more