Distracted Easily? Try This.

Wired For Distraction

A news headline on your computer screen. Your own thoughts. The buzz of your cell phone. In today’s world, we are bombarded and if you are prone to distraction by nature, learning how to manage this is critical. First, though, acknowledge the upside of how you are wired¹. When I suggested this to Sharon, a sales professional and client, she was relieved. Rather than feel badly for being susceptible to distractions, she identified that her strength is that she is spontaneous and flexible. Her opportunity now is to harness this so that she can be more focused and productive. Read more

Don’t Psychoanalyze the Door

Take it from Tony

photo of person opening a doorMy father, Tony, now 86, was an IBM salesman during the 1950’s-1980’s. In the early days of his career¹ he’d cart an IBM Selectric typewriter all over Manhattan. A tip he learned from cold calling and would later share with rookie salesmen was: “Don’t psychoanalyze the door.” Even when approaching small or obscure companies, there might be more opportunity behind the door than expected. Read more

See Yourself As The Expert

What a Turn of Phrase Can Do

Nine years ago I was sitting in a conference room with my colleague, Joan. We were girding up to tackle the task of creating a brand new graphic exhibit for the company’s corporate briefing center of which I was the director. This job, one of many within a larger project, felt particularly daunting. Even though we had traversed this territory successfully before, this time was different. We felt the pressure of wanting to make it bigger and better and were concerned about communicating the exact right message. And once again, the deadline loomed. We had allowed our creativity to be squelched and were procrastinating with the best of them. Read more

What Would Thrill You?

Avoiding Discomfort Only Gets You So Far

It was during a “Take 10” coaching sampler at Spa Lamar here in Scottsdale. I had asked Marissa one of my favorite questions: “What are you craving?” I listened intently as she sat in her spa robe and described what she liked about her current job and also what bored her to no end. Then, mid-sentence, her tone of voice and whole demeanor changed. “Well, you know what would thrill me?” I was all ears. In just ten minutes Marissa had gone from considering what the next most practical career move would be to entertaining greater possibility. Read more

What You and Pavarotti Have In Common

King of the High C’s

Can you imagine being so affected by a single musical performance that you would return 17 curtain calls in appreciation? That was what the audience gave Luciano Pavarotti after he masterfully delivered nine high C’s in a row during a performance of Donizetti’s “La Fille du Regiment” at New York’s Metropolitan Opera in 1972. The high C, an octave above middle C on the piano, is one of the highest notes in the tenor range. Approaching it means stepping out to the edge, even for a master. Pavarotti described it this way:

“When singing high notes, I feel like a show jumper before a 2-meters-plus bar. Stretched to my limits. Excited and happy, but with a strong undercurrent of fear. The moment I actually hit the note, I almost lose consciousness. A physical, animal sensation seizes me. Then, after it has been successfully negotiated, I regain control.” (1) Read more

Clear a Space-Make a Space (Part 2)

In part 1, I shared three approaches to rid yourself of clutter and said that clearing a space of what depletes you is actually making a space for something that enlivens you. Now let’s look further at what it means to make a space. Read more

Clear a Space-Make a Space (Part 1)

Urge to Purge

Spring must be in full force because over the last few weeks several people have told me how happy they are to finally be sorting through “stuff” and clearing up areas of their offices and homes. I’ve been on the same kick also. If you have the urge to purge, act while the inspiration strikes. Read more

Which Wolf Have You Been Feeding?

Two Wolves

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. Read more

How Do You Make Time?

Take It Back

We all wish we had more time for something: to relax, to exercise, to make progress on that important project, to spend time with someone. As you manage the demands of daily life, it’s easy to fall into the trap of waiting for big chunks of time to miraculously become available. A better approach is to look for smaller windows of opportunity that are within each day waiting to be tapped. Read more

Give Yourself a Hand!

Eight Minutes

photo of concertWhen I was twelve years old, I had a habit of slipping into my two older sisters’ room when no one was around and cranking up the stereo to dance. Granted I was limited by their selection of albums, as my collection was pretty lean. One particular song —and, all right, I admit that it was on the Barry Manilow Live album— included an eight-minute drum solo followed by wild applause from the crowd. I would listen to this track over and over again while dancing and taking swooping, dramatic bows as the applause rose louder. What an ebullient state I’d be in when I was finished! Read more