Fear is a Given
“It’s not my first rodeo,” remarked Jeanie, a client who is preparing to move cross country and pursue a new career path. She is familiar with the voices of fear from the peanut gallery. Some are from friends who ask, “Are you sure about this?” while other doubtful refrains originate in her own mind. Fortunately, Jeanie has made big moves before and is prepared for this stage of second-guessing her decision. She knows how to keep the fears in perspective by talking back to them: I know this is right for me.
Notably, “Be not afraid,” is a command that appears throughout the Bible many times. The implication is that we have the power to choose even though it doesn’t feel that way when in the grip of fear. I once heard it suggested that a better interpretation is: Do not remain afraid. Now that seems more doable. Since fear is a given in life, it’s vital to remember that courage is a decision, sometimes a stubborn assertion, and always an act of will.
As with so many other uncomfortable emotions, rather than expecting to eradicate fear before proceeding, we only need to know how to diffuse it. There is a coaching aphorism: Fear may be in the car, but it doesn’t have to be driving.
Who’s Driving The Car?
Here are some ways to interact with fear and coax it into the back seat:
Anything helpful here?
Attention: You Are Now Leaving Your Comfort Zone!
Visit, Don’t Stay.
Flip the Coin.
Take The Keys!
What frightens us in life these days? So very many things. Remember that you are much more than any momentary feeling. The expression “take courage” reminds us that you cannot wait to feel courageous; you must go ahead and take courage.
This Week’s Call to Action: When you think of the situation before you or the desire that you hold deeply, what frightens you most? Ask yourself:
“Courage is resistance to fear,
mastery of fear, not absence of fear.”
Here's to you,
²The saying “Fear is excitement without breath,” is attributed to Fritz Perls, the founder of Gestalt therapy.
See Also: Trusting Your Clarity